Femdom Essay # 3- What to expect from a session?

My Femdom Session, What to Expect? 

At last, your first Femdom appointment/session, either real-time or virtual (via phone or web cam) looms large before you.  Perhaps you have done the research for your upcoming session and while you are still understandable nervous, you pretty much know what to expect.  Or, worse yet, you have done the research and still have no earthly clue what will occur during your very first session with a Femdom.  Depending on your initial consult, meeting or conversation with your future Femdom, you may or may not have set the parameters for what you wish to occur.  

There are many scenarios and situations that can take place in a session with a Femdom.  If the session that you have arranged is with a real – time Femdom, one who meets face – to – face with submissives in person, you can expect to have the initial “meet and greet.”  During the intake procedure, if your future Femdom hasn’t already assessed your needs, desired and limits, then she will likely do so at this time.  Some Femdoms even have a menu of choices, a list of scenarios and forms of play that the Femdom enjoys and is skilled at.   

This type of initial screening, if you will, also takes place when you choose your Femdom (or best yet, when She chooses you!).  The same is true if you are engaging with a virtual Femdom, that is, one who dominates via phone, text messaging or web cam.  Be prepared to answer questions about what turns you and what you are definitely not into.  These question will greatly aide your Femdom in providing you with the most meaningful BDSM experience, whether online, on the phone or in person.   

What’s on the Femdom Menu? 

Femdoms generally have a wide array of scenarios, scenes and fetishes that they are not only versed in, but really enjoy doing.  When you and your Femdom agree upon a particular form of play, you will be engaging in what is known as a “scene” or “scening.”  The terms “scene” and “scening” mostly apply to real – time, face – to – face Femdom sessions.  Online or phone sessions are typically not referred to as scenes, but are referred to simply as “sessions.”   

Many submissives enjoy some kind of pain play, be it light or hard.  An example of light pain play might be a set of nipple clamps affixed to the submissive’s nipples or other sensitive places, such as the cock or balls, or, on the outer lips of the vagina.  Other forms of light pain play, often referred to as CBT or cock and ball torture, include hot candle wax being dripped on various sensitive parts of the submissive’s anatomy.  Often times a long lace, like a leather boot lace or a shoe lace can be tied around the submissive’s cock and balls, and, can serve to increase sensitivity and lengthen the duration of the submissive’s erection.   These are just a few of the ideas your Femdom may have for your session, provided you have shared with her that you are intrigued and/or turned on by, pain.  If you excel at pain play, you can almost guarantee that your Mistress will take your pain/pleasure to the next level.  Some forms of extreme CBT include urethra play, cock cages and penis piercings, to name a few.  Many Femdoms enjoy some form of orgasm denial, either simply through teasing and denial (with release at the end of the session) or in extreme cases of orgasm denial, by putting the submissive in chastity and keeping him from orgasming for long periods of time.   

Some submissive’s are aroused by bondage.  Bondage can be literally tying someone up to, say a chair or a four – poster bed, for instance, on the light end, or, to a rack or a cross on the extreme end.  Once the submissive is bound, he or she may be gagged as well.  Of course, this is all done at the discretion of the Femdom.   

Finally, there are Femdoms who enjoy and submissives who elicit erotic humiliation.  Erotic humiliation can come in many forms.  The Femdom can force the submissive to dress and perform the tasks typically associated with women.  She can also mock the submissive’s penis and/or treat him and his sex organ as objects.  She can verbally ridicule and berate her submissive as well.  Many submissives find humiliation, in various formats, as exceedingly erotic and may ask the Femdom to move their erotic humiliation sessions into the public arena.  

Final Femdom Thoughts 

The combinations and permutations available to a Femdom are only limited by her imagination.  A very creative and cunning Femdom can take a submissive to new heights and conversely, to new lows.   No matter what your and your Femdom decide to do during your session, you should always make sure that trust and communication are at the core of each and every scene.